I am surrounded by Y chromosomes MOST of the time. I have to put the toilet seat down at least once a day, meals are often accompanied by sound effects, and anything frou-frou is very out of place in our mostly masculine home. BUT if I had the chance, I wouldn't change my life at all! ...Well, maybe the toilet seat thing...
Friday, December 25, 2009
Thursday, January 8, 2009
A Very Verbose Verbal Scrapbook
Mirth was all around me...
Laughter filled the air...
And went completely undocumented!
We had such a great Christmas time, but in all the chaos and glee, I never brought out the camera. So I will have to create a mental picture of our holidays (I got this idea from Diana, who apparently had the same problem I did in not thinking to photograph any of the goings-on... However, she has pregnant brain, and I do not have such an excuse.)
Beware! You may need to take a bathroom break somewhere in the middle here... Your kids may be in college by the time you read through all of my yammering on. This post is really not for the faint of heart: Only the truly devoted among you.
Picture #1: December 24, A Quiet Christmas Eve Involving Crabs, Luke Skywalker, and Anti-Semitic Statements The pictures of this night would include a delicious crab dinner, which became a tradition a few years ago, when we found that local Dungeness Crab was a decidedly great alternative to the turkey and ham that we had eaten so recently at Thanksgiving. We all sat about the table, crunching our little crustaceans while making Yummy noises intermittently.
Later, the nativity was read from the scriptures, where we laid out the wooden figures representing the major "characters" in the story. One of the wisemen was missing from the set, however, and a Luke Skywalker action figure was the understudy for a time, until it was decided that his bare chested attire was far too risque for the Baby Jesus... So we only had the wisemen that brought the gold and frankincense. "You can keep the myrrh."
After that, we went looking for Christmas lights in the fancy neighborhood that decorated so festively for Halloween, but found it to be quite dark. Nathan's explanation? "There must be a lot of Jewish people in this neighborhood." So, we headed back to the land of Gentiles, looking for some good ol' WASP festiveness and ended up at the L.A. temple to take in the sights there. When we came back home, we watched the Polar Express and drank our traditional recipe for Royal Hot Chocolate at the appropriate part of the movie. By then, it was nearing midnight, so "Santa's helpers" got to take turns assisting in the Christmas Eve duties: Elf-Hayden stuffed the stockings, and Elf-Nathan placed the loot under the tree... And neither of them was a cotton-headed Ninnymuggins.
Picture #2: December 25, Christmas Day with Elephants and Butt Snipers and Torture Pudding.
The boys wake up as soon as the sun peaks out, raid their stockings as quietly as two little elephants can be... At least they sound like elephants at 6:30 am. They graciously enjoyed the limited number of presents under tree as though they were winners of the jackpot at Cesar's Palace. Hayden shot everybody in the butt with his Nerf rifle at least once throughout the day. That evening, we were joined by my sister and her family, my Mom and Chuck, and my cousin Scott and his family. Much more delicious food was consumed in mass quantities (including Yorkshire pudding...or "Torture Pudding" as per the boys... that dripped on the bottom of the stove and filled the apartment with smoke), and we ended the evening by singing Christmas carols, which Caleb seemed okay with as long as they didn't sound sad. Silent Night was apparently much too much for him, but Jingle Bells was A-Okay.
Picture #3: December 27, Wayne's Family's Ginormous Gathering of Relatives We Haven't Seen in a Long Time.
We travelled to Ramona in San Diego County for our first glimpse of the Holgersons from North Carolina, and the Sortors from Utah. This is no small feat, as the Holgerson Horde consists of eight people which DROVE all the way across the country: Mom (Wayne's sister Gina), Dad (Sanders), and their six children... All six of which have undergone major growth spurts of late, and all of whom LOVE to point out how short our family is. We prepped the boys, warning them that the cousins loved to tease, and to be prepared to become the butt of a number of short jokes. Lo and behold, within 2 seconds (I am SOOOOO not exaggerating!) of entering Aunt Rita and Uncle Buck's home, four of the kids blurted out such comments at MY expense. The boys went unscathed, but I counted about 67 other related comments about my diminutive size throughout the evening. Despite the festivities including over 40 people (20-something kids under the age of sixteen), it was absolutely, positively WONDERFUL to get everyone in the same room.
Picture #4: December 28, Murder at Angie's House and the Fluoride Incident of '08
For this event, I am almost glad there is no photographic evidence. It is amazing to me how a group of Wayne and I, his cousin Kelly and Carlton, and his squeaky-clean Mormon sisters and their spouses can start out an evening so well behaved, and watch it degenerate into something the FCC might ban from television. Let's just say, no protected class went untouched in our very un-P.C.-humor, Chubby's dance would have made a porn-star blush... and all the while Lynne kept 12 kids at bay in the party room across the street.
When the children returned, and the evening wound down, I offered to give Brooklyn a fluoride varnish treatment. "Mmmmm. Cherry flavored," I professed as I demonstrated on myself. Now this is the part where I learned why so many people choose not to treat family in their dental practices, as the fun and games quickly devolved into a screaming tantrum of epic proportions, and I watched as my sweet little niece tried to make herself throw up once the varnish had been applied. As Andy patiently put her to bed, he asked her if she understood what the "tooth vitamins were meant to do. "It KILLS you!" was her anguished response. And, as her concerned little sister offered a bedtime prayer on her behalf, Avery said, "...and please bless Brookie that her teeth won't fall out tonight." Thankfully, nobody died, and all her teeth were still there in the morning, and I even got a kiss from the fully fluoridated niece that loathed my very existence the night before.
Picture # I don't know. I've lost count...Hayden Aids in Burglarizing His First House:
Are you really still there?!? This is taking a lot longer than I thought... Good on you if you are still reading this.
Rather than drive back to L.A. county each night after each successive family gathering, we were graciously put up by Angie's next door neighbors, who had allowed us to stay in their vacant home while they were vacationing in New York. Our only warning issued by Angie: "Just don't lock the front door, as they don't have a key to open it. ONLY lock the security screen!" Easy enough? Well, it seems in my haste to pack up and urgently return that morning so I could take any emergency dental calls that could occur... Or maybe I was just a little too eager to chow on Angie's cinnamon rolls for breakfast... But I apparently slammed the front door a little too hard. The doorknob lock was such that if jostled even slightly, would keep the door locked... and again: THERE WAS NO KEY... And my purse was inside.
Thankfully, Andy has super long monkey arms, and was able to reach up through a 6-inch cat door to unlock the garage door on the side of the house, and then Hayden was able to crawl into the house through a larger dog-sized door through the laundry room to retrieve my purse. Who ever said crime doesn't pay?
Last Picture, I PROMISE! and I don't even remember what day of the week it was: Girly Day With Sparkly Vampires and The Reason I Finally Broke Down to Read the Twilight Books (see Nathan's opinion of my literary choices here)
Gina, Kelly, and I finally got a chance to do what we do best: Gossip, giggle, talk incessantly, eat, watch kissing movies, and muse about how it's so much fun to be best friends with family. It's been a long time since I've been able to enjoy estrogen, and this time we did it in style! We went to Beverly Hills to watch Twilight, couldn't find the theater, ate at Cheesecake Factory (which we learned was akin to McDonald's in an area as posh as Beverly Drive) where Kelly almost broke her foot and spent her entire meal getting groped by a touchy-feely waiter who was trying to flirt to get a better tip, saw Norm McDonald of SNL fame (well, Kelly did... I was distracted by sparkly things in the windows), drove back to my place, watched a kissing movie, went to another theater I knew how to find to watch another kissing movie with sparkly vampires, and went our separate ways for who-knows-how-long-until-we-all-get-together-again.
Monday, December 22, 2008
Transforming Christmas

When I was in the fifth grade, my parents announced that they were separating and would likely divorce. As time drew on, my dad got his own little one bedroom apartment, and it became apparent that the separation was permanent. My sister and I spent our Tuesday nights and some weekends at my dad's little bachelor pad. We watched the A-Team on a little 13 inch screen and ate a lot of spam in that apartment. While the divorce was relatively amicable, things seemed ugly and dull.
I guess that's how my dad felt at Christmastime when he said he wanted to get the ugliest tree on the lot. The scraggly little twig that he placed atop his homemade oak end table for us to decorate was a hideous little thing--dead needles and big gaping holes, barely strong enough to support the lights strung about its pathetic little branches.
With a bit of care, however, we transformed that unsightly little "tree" into something quite lovely. Despite its drooping branches, the glow from the colored lights somehow warmed that lonely little apartment and brought some Christmas cheer to the three of us.
My dad's intentions suddenly made sense to me: Life was a bit ugly for now, but would warm up and be enjoyable soon...
...Either that, or he was just rebelling against the fabulous 7 foot evergreens that usually adorned our living room at my mom's house. "Take that!"
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Why I'm Pretty Sure Ebenezer Scrooge Hailed From L.A.

I was fortunate enough to attend the Nutcracker, performed by the San Francisco ballet, when I was in the second grade. I have never forgotten sitting high up in the balcony, peering down at the dancers below with my dad's binoculars and studying the glittering, beaded costumes. I was taking ballet at the time, and I was studying how remarkably pointy all the ladies' toes were... Would I ever be able to stand on my tippy toes like that? It was a magical experience.
Sadly, I have never had the chance to go back to see the Nutcracker since. So when my mom got our family tickets to see a production by a local dance academy, we jumped at the chance.
And by jumped, I mean sat in traffic for three hours to travel 39.39 miles. That's right folks: on the freeways of Los Angeles, we traveled an average of 13.33 miles per hour. I'm sure I don't have to elaborate on the mood in the car. Let's just say, if I had any delusions of reliving my magical Nutcracker experience from childhood, I got totally screwed by downtown traffic... Or more aptly put: I got scrooged.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Twelve Days of Christmas Tag
Two theories as to why Santa chooses the chimney as his best means of entry: Theory #1...His first job as a cat burglar was interrupted by a brief stint in a federal prison. As he was being busted for his third strike for breaking and entering through a chimney, he concocted the story about breaking IN to the home to deliver presents, and the judge threw out the case... but the FBI never got off his back, so he's been forced to keep up the ruse indefinitely;
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
"Clark Griswold on Crack"...and a bunch of other stuff I pilfered off of other peoples' blogs because I sucky suck at finding anything good on YouTube
You know... 12 Days of Christmas and all that.
That would be a great idea if I had any talent for finding good stuff on YouTube (which, I have learned, is a wonderful means of filling up your blog with really funny crap with very little effort... BUT, also means you have posts for which nobody takes the time to pause your music player, and will probably pass up the opportunity to watch the funny crap and become enlightened...) But I digress.
First, I pose a question: What if Clark Griswold did crack? Imagine what his house would look like at Christmas time. If "Sparky" could have gotten his hands on something a little stronger than the egg nog he shared with cousin Eddy in his festive Wally World mug, I think his house would have had a similar resemblance to this astounding display.
Secondly, I wish to share a little Christmas story I stole from Wayne's sister's blog:
At least that's the gist we got when our little two year old niece "enhanced" the nativity this year... Although there is still some debate as to whether or not it was really her, or if perhaps her daddy snuck one past mommy when she wasn't looking.
Lastly, in honor of the Twelve Days of Christmas, here is a video that makes me smile, no matter how many times I watch it. And you betcha... I stole it from my sister's blog in light of my disability with all things YouTube. I wish I were this amazingly talented. I think it's true genius when you can SING comedy.
Thanks to all who posted their super-fantastic uncopyrighted material.
And (once again) Merry Christmas from the Van Cleaves!
Friday, December 12, 2008
How could this POSSIBLY be worth $10 an hour?
- Fake Santa wig and beard: $25
- Jenny Craig plan to aid in working off those extra pounds used to get into full character: $100
- Dry cleaning bill for urine and puke stains on red velvet suit: $30
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
In Lieu of Fancy Schmancy Christmas Cards
So enjoy your Holiday Greeting, Van Cleave style. Notice Timmy has returned to the family, thanks to an astute and very highly regarded friend back in San Rafael. Thank you, Christine for sending him back to us. It wouldn't have been Christmas without him!
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Poor Me
I also LOVE to put up my Christmas decorations. Especially my tree. It looks like a glowing snowball when it is all lit up, and it reminds me of the strange and wonderful circumstances by which we acquired it.
A few years ago, while we were living in Riverside, we all got the nastiest of flu bugs. We all felt like dying. To make matters worse, our heat was not working, and the gas company could not come out to fix it for a week. There was a ridiculous cold spell, such that we could see our breath in our own living room. And to top it off, Nathan needed to go to the doctor to get some antibiotics because he had an excruciating sore throat and fever that made me suspect strep. However, I was in no state to take him and neither was Wayne, so my mother-in-law kindly stepped in. While at the pharmacy, she called to see if we wanted a tree: Green or white. I quickly said green (as I am such a traditionalist), but was persuaded by Nathan to try the white, as he believed I would really enjoy it once I saw it. And he was quite right. We also enjoyed the heat Lynne brought along with her in the form of portable space heaters from the same drug store. I have the hardest time taking down that tree every year, because I love to bask in its soft glow every evening. And each time I do, I think of that Christmas, where we hung our ornaments clutching our barf bowls, and basking in the warmth of our little space heaters.


Saturday, October 11, 2008
Happy Birthday to Me
| You Are a Witch |
![]() You are deviously brilliant and a perfect manipulator. You somehow always end up getting what you want - without anyone knowing you're working behind the scenes. Crafty and cunning, you can work your way out of any jam. And it's easy for you to get people to do what you want, whether you're working for good or evil. Your greatest power: Mind control Your greatest weakness: Making people your puppets You play well with: Ghosts |
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Nato Potato
Nathan is a great guy. And I use the word guy, rather than "kid" intentionally. He's not much of a kid anymore. He's grown so much over this past year (all by himself...no growth hormone injections needed). His voice has changed. His attitude has changed (*clenched teeth*). His smell has changed... But he is still a good guy to the core. He loves his family dearly, and we have a great understanding of one another. He has a strong personality and leadership qualities. I love you tremendously, Nate! Now, my son, use your powers for good. And never join the dark side.
I wuv you, my Widdle Punum!
Sunday, May 11, 2008
One of my Favorite Mother's Day Moments
To my Moms
I am a lucky woman, indeed. All of these remarkable women, like a kaleidoscope, add color and sparkle in my life. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I love you all so much. Happy Mothers' Day!




